One to One Coaching

I offer free 30 minute telephone/Skype consultations for people wanting to find out more about coaching on the 'baby decision'. Email me at and assistant Laura will respond and arrange an appointment with you. Visit for more information about my coaching services.

Wednesday, 22 October 2014

Perspective from one of my coaching clients

'I had come to a point in my relationship where I was going to have to make a tough decision either way, and I wanted to make sure that firstly it was the right one (although I was sure it was), and secondly how to go about doing it in a calm and controlled manner.  Beth was completely unbiased, which I really appreciated as this isn't the case with my family, friends, and partner.  The coaching gave me tools to go through my decision making process, alongside anxiety-reducing techniques.

I needed the space that Beth provided to look at myself and my future, and how I was going to make it what I wanted with or without my partner.  It felt very selfish but the result has been for the benefit of both of us and I would absolutely recommend her services to anyone going through the life-changing decision of whether to have a child or not.'   ~ Sarah, health care worker, 33

(from a testimonial written by a client who recently completed coaching with me)


Tuesday, 21 October 2014

Eight Years of TickTock Coaching - Anniversary Newsletter

It's hard to believe that it's been eight years since I started TickTock Coaching.   Eight years ago, I was very uncertain about whether it was possible for me to develop a viable coaching practice - particularly one with such a unique niche! But, after being featured in a few media pieces and through developing my Children or Not blog, clients who needed my services were able to find me. Thanks to all of you - clients, former clients and colleagues who have helped me make my coaching practice a success!

And now, what's new with me and TickTock Coaching:

Feature in the Times and Media Requests - I'm going to be featured in the Times newspaper in a few weeks, I'll be featured in a profile in the T2 supplement for my work coaching women (and occasionally men) trying to decide whether to have children or not.  I'll be sending round another email with a link to the article when it comes out.

I sometimes get asked if any former clients would speak to journalists - if you are happy to be interviewed by a journalist (often you can be anonymous in the articles) please get in touch as I am putting together a list of clients who are happy to be contacted about media requests.

Leadership Coaching & Training in Organisations - In addition to my life coaching work, I also coach people within organisations and I provide Leadership workshops. If you are interested in finding our more, please contact me or go to my website

Life Coaching - The mainstay of my life coaching work is coaching around the 'baby decision' but I often see former clients (or their friends who have been referred to me) who want coaching on other issues such as life/work balance or career so don't hesitate to get in touch.

Inspiring Video - As regular readers of my e-newsletter know, I always like to leave you with a poem or inspiring video.  This is a great video on relationships from Dan Savage! I love his notion that you need to identify a handful of non-negotiable's  in relationships and then, after that be prepared to compromise  You can view the short video here:


Monday, 20 October 2014

Excellent article on the problem behind the Apple and Facebook offer to pay for women to freeze their eggs.

Motherhood wasn't for me.

Great article in the Guardian Family Section this weekend from  woman talking about her decision not to have children in this article Motherhood Wasn't for Me


Wednesday, 15 October 2014

Paying Women to Freeze their eggs - A Sticking Plaster over the issue of Inequality in the Workplace for Mothers

So this was just announced today that Apple and Facebook are going to pay women employees to freeze their eggs so they can have children later and not worry about being railroaded in their career track.  

I really feel this is problematic on so many levels.   Surely we as a society should be asking ourselves why is it more difficult for women to have a successful career once they have children than it is for men.

I also think it might give women a false sense of security - there are many factors leading to infertility and I just don't think the data is conclusive that freezing eggs leads to a massively increased fertility when you are over 40.

As a coach, I do think it would be more beneficial for these companies to pay for coaching to help women work out what they are wanting for themselves in terms of having children or not before paying for an expensive and invasive medical procedure.

But my main issue is that there are structural inequalities and discrimination faces by women and mothers needs to be addressed first.  This feels like an ineffective sticking paster on a much larger issue.

Monday, 13 October 2014

Can I persuade my boyfriend to have a child with me?

A common dilemma for many of my coaching clients - starting a new relationship this women in her early 30's is wondering if she can persuade her boyfriend to start a family.

Thinking of having a baby?

This article has some useful tips for couples who are thinking about starting a family.  Particularly useful are the 'red flags' listed towards the end.

Wednesday, 8 October 2014

Plantonic parenting arrangements get popular

 Research doesn’t yet exist on platonic parenting; it is too recent a phenomenon for that. Elaine Gordon, a clinical psychologist specializing in reproductive medicine in Los Angeles, says she looks at studies of other types of nontraditional families, such as same-sex couples and extended family members — aunts, uncles, grandparents — serving as primary caregivers. “I think if anything is done right, it’s probably going to be fine, but we don’t know what’s right yet,” she says. “There would have to be long-range research.”

In my book 'Baby or Not: Making the Biggest Decision of Your Life', I dedicate a whole chapter to the topic of co-parenting.   When you enter into a co-parenting arrangement, you are having a child with someone who you are not in a romantic or sexual relationship with.  It has been gaining in popularity as it is a way for people who do want children but don't have a partner to have support while raising a child.  I wanted to explore this in my book as I feel it a creative and interesting option that many people will not heard of or considered.

This article talks about about the development of coparenting websites in the US.

Monday, 6 October 2014

Are we too panicked about women's fertility?

Barbara Ellen on fertility panic & egg freezing in the Observer today.  I don't completely agree with everything she says in this article  but I do agree that egg freezing is such an unproven and expensive procedure that encouraging women to use it as an insurance policy is probably not very helpful. There is no guarantee that older women using frozen eggs will have a higher success of fertility and it would be even more devastating if women had counted on this as a definite option for the future.  I think prior to this support or coaching to help women work out their options and also to focus on the bigger picture - how they want to live their live, what their vision is of the future.

Saturday, 4 October 2014

Is there a 'right' time to become a mother?

'Currently, U.S. Census Bureau statistics show that the national average age for women’s first birth is 25, which can be higher on a state-by-state basis (in Massachusetts it’s 28). However, there’s no doubt that the numbers of women who wait are growing. In 2006 about one out of 12 first births were to women age 35 and over, compared to only one out of 100 in 1970. The American Fertility Association (AFA) uses an even higher number. It reports that 20% of American women now wait to have their first child until after age 35. ' from the Forbes Article When Should You Become A Mom?

One aspect in making the the decision to have children or not is whether there is a 'right' time to have children.   As the above quote shows, many more women are waiting to have their first child until after the age 35.  And, as expected, there is no consensus on when is the 'right' time to have children.

Sometimes, women who are feeling unsure of whether they want children or not feel pressured because they feel they need to have children before they are a particular age.  I do agree with this article that because it does become more difficult the older you are, it is good to try to make the decision earlier rather than later.  But I also know there are many options women can pursue if they do want children - including adoption and fostering.