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I offer free 30 minute telephone/Skype consultations for people wanting to find out more about coaching on the 'baby decision'. Email me at mailto:beth@ticktockcoaching.co.uk and assistant Laura will respond and arrange an appointment with you. Visit http://www.ticktockcoaching.co.uk/ for more information about my coaching services.

Tuesday, 18 August 2015

Simple Pleasures

Following on from my post yesterday on the drop of happiness that occurs for new parents, I wanted to share this delightful and funny letter to new parents on the simple pleasures that you do give up when you become a parent.

http://goodmenproject.com/families/the-30-simple-pleasures-you-will-give-up-when-you-become-a-parent-wat/

Although it's very true that newborn's make many of the simple pleasures in life you take for granted difficult,  as a coach, I encourage people - whether they are making the baby decision or whether they are parents who are wanting more of their life back, to decide what is important to you and how you can create space to have these things in your life - despite the challenges.  And of course, as your child gets older, you do slowly regain pieces of your old life back and you can enjoy some of these pleasures once more.

Monday, 17 August 2015

New parenthood leads to a drop in happiness


A study showing that new parenthood rarely equates with happiness!

'About 30 percent remained at about the same state of happiness or better once they had the baby, according to self-reported measures of well-being. The rest said their happiness decreased during the first and second year after the birth.'

Of those new mothers and fathers whose happiness went down, 37 percent (742) reported a one-unit drop, 19 percent (383) a two-unit drop and 17 percent (341) a three-unit drop.

Being a new parent is hard work - sleep deprivation combined with new responsibilities can weigh heavily on us.  The study showed that people's drop in happiness fell into three categories - one being the overwhelming responsibilities of new parenthood.  One of the questions I have is whether happiness rises back once children become older?

Saturday, 15 August 2015

Tuesday, 23 June 2015

Not just the sperm donor...

Many women are choosing to have children on their own.  The role of the sperm donor has traditionally been an anonymous one.  Yet,  more and more woman are choosing to have a child through a co-parenting arrangement with a man.

There are many benefits to this... one of the things clients come to me with is the overwhelming worry about having a child on their own as a single parent.  And having the involvement of another adult can help to share the burden greatly.

In this article, Sperm Donor, Life Partner,  author interviews people who have become involved in these new co-parenting arrangements.

'For women in their thirties and forties, choosing someone to co-parent with can be a smarter decision than trying to find a mate because it takes the pressure off to marry or reproduce with someone you barely know.'

Tuesday, 16 June 2015

The limitations of fertility can be heartbreaking for those who do know they want to have children.  In this story, a young couple talk about their experience of fertility treatment.

 http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2015/jun/06/young-infertile-four-years-forty-negative-tests-ivf

I often get clients who come because are trying to make the decision whether the want to have children enough to go through all the difficulties of fertility treatment.  

Saturday, 6 June 2015

I'm thinking of having a baby on my own.

I regularly have women who are in the same situation as this reader writing into the advice column on the topic I'm thinking of having a baby on my own in the Guardian.  If you haven't meet the right person by age 35, then considering having a baby on your own is an option to consider.  But as this woman points out,  it is a difficult choice, particularly when faced with negative options of others.



Monday, 1 June 2015

Teaching teenagers about the limitations of fertility


I'm speaking this morning on BBC Radio Tees in response to calls for Sex Education to include information on fertility and the limitations of fertility

“We have been very effective at teaching teenagers how not to get pregnant,” Prof Geeta Nargund says. “Now, we need to start teaching them about fertility as well, so they can get pregnant when they choose to.”

http://www.theguardian.com/education/2015/may/15/sex-education-for-teenagers-should-include-fertility-says-doctor

Saturday, 30 May 2015

My mother didn't want to be a mom

Some of my clients who come to me say that behind their indecision is hearing negativity from their own mother.   This article looks at what it is like to be the child of someone who didn't want to be a mother.

Friday, 15 May 2015

Stigma and the decision to have children or not.

Sorry about the delay in writing on the blog.... I had been aiming to update the blog at least twice a week but things have been so busy lately - new coaching clients booking in from as far away as Australia and Germany that I have found that two weeks have gone by.

One of the difficult things for many of my clients is around the stigma still associated with the decision not to have children.

Here is a great article that recently appeared in Time Magazine I Don't Want to Have Children and That's OK 


Friday, 1 May 2015

While We're Young - a missed opportunity

I recently went to see the film While We're Young - which I enjoyed.  And yet, I agreed with this reviewer that it was a missed opportunity in their portrayal of the decision to be childfree.

http://www.salon.com/2015/04/30/youre_still_nothing_until_youre_a_mom_why_does_pop_culture_hate_the_child_free/