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I offer free 30 minute telephone/Skype consultations for people wanting to find out more about coaching on the 'baby decision'. Email me at and assistant Laura will respond and arrange an appointment with you. Visit for more information about my coaching services.

Sunday, 14 September 2014

Would anyone have a baby with me?

This was a very interesting request I saw recently - a woman whose partner doesn't want children has asked if anyone would co-parent a child with her.  This is an option I discuss in my book 'Baby or Not?' in a chapter dedicated to exploring the concept of co-parenting where you decide to have a child with someone who is not your sexual partner - a male friend or, as in this instance, a stranger.

Tuesday, 9 September 2014

A woman wrote into the Globe and Mail asking about advice on a problem I see quite abit in my coaching practice.  I want a baby but my husband doesn't


Friday, 5 September 2014

As I've said many times before, it is unfair that women are too often defined by their choice whether to have children or not which this article aptly points out. 

Thursday, 4 September 2014

The pain of wanting to have a child when your partner doesn't

Very often, I am contacted by women who do want children but their partners or boyfriend or husband doesn't.  This is a very difficult and painful situation to be in as this posting on a discussion board from a woman in that situation shows.

Wednesday, 3 September 2014

Should I have a baby? Do I want to be a mother?

Here's a short piece from a woman who suddenly re-considered her decision to become a mother - asking herself the question 'Should I have a baby?'

No Baby Boom

More and more people are deciding not to have children.   This article the No-Baby Boom explores the trend.

Monday, 1 September 2014

I just saw this fantastic video from Dan Savage on compromise and long term relationships that I wanted to share.  It's called The Price of Admission

Although it's not directly on the baby decision, I've posted it here because a key issue for clients of mine who do want a baby but their partners don't is whether the 'baby decision' is a non-negotiable OR area of compromise. 

In the video above, Dan Savage is encouraging us to get clear about non-negotiables vs the usual irritations. 

Sunday, 31 August 2014

What do parents wish they knew before becoming parents?

So today, I found this nice article - aimed more at people who have decided to have children but I thought this this in 10 things I wished I had known before becoming a parent is pretty good for those trying to make the decision as well.  And I do agree with much of the list - particularly point number two!

Saturday, 30 August 2014

Jennifer Ainston: Questions about children are not fair

Jennifer Ainston recently gave an interview where she spoke out against the constant speculation on whether she was going to have children or not.

Friday, 29 August 2014

Your greatest achievement

Sometimes parents say that having children is the greatest achievement of their lives. For this woman, not having kids was her greatest achievement.

Wednesday, 27 August 2014

Saturday, 23 August 2014

Interesting discussion in the decision whether to have kids or not here - in some cultures and communities the idea of having a choice is not even considered.,1359154,1359154