One to One Coaching

I offer free 30 minute telephone/Skype consultations for people wanting to find out more about coaching on the 'baby decision'. Email me at mailto:beth@ticktockcoaching.co.uk and assistant Laura will respond and arrange an appointment with you. Visit http://www.ticktockcoaching.co.uk/ for more information about my coaching services.

Friday, 15 May 2015

Stigma and the decision to have children or not.

Sorry about the delay in writing on the blog.... I had been aiming to update the blog at least twice a week but things have been so busy lately - new coaching clients booking in from as far away as Australia and Germany that I have found that two weeks have gone by.

One of the difficult things for many of my clients is around the stigma still associated with the decision not to have children.

Here is a great article that recently appeared in Time Magazine I Don't Want to Have Children and That's OK 


Friday, 1 May 2015

While We're Young - a missed opportunity

I recently went to see the film While We're Young - which I enjoyed.  And yet, I agreed with this reviewer that it was a missed opportunity in their portrayal of the decision to be childfree.

http://www.salon.com/2015/04/30/youre_still_nothing_until_youre_a_mom_why_does_pop_culture_hate_the_child_free/


Wednesday, 29 April 2015

Testimonial


"Beth's gently probing and holistic style of coaching has proved especially valuable at a key stage of my career.  Her life experience and understanding of the many aspects that comprise a working woman's  life make her a great coach for those looking to flex their work/life balance. Her use of visual techniques I found very beneficial and has lasted to great effect in achieving certain goals."  ~ HJ, Career Coaching Client

I received this lovely testimonial from a client who I had worked with over five months - our main focus was on work/life balance and career.

Wednesday, 22 April 2015

Tuesday, 14 April 2015

Challenging assumptions - are you obligated to have children?

Here is a short blog post looking at the issue of the 'cultural obligation' around having children.  It's quite short but it has some excellent links to research into attitudes around having children and remaining childfree. 

http://m.pittnews.com/opinions/article_bb0cd566-dcbb-11e4-9025-6f11cb4df8b1.html?mode=jqm

Tuesday, 7 April 2015

Advice to a man who doesn't want kids but his girlfriend does

Good advice here!

What are the consquences of delaying the decision to have chidlren?

We are all so used to having more choices and being able to do so much more than previous generations did.   One thing that has remained unchanged is our biology - we simply can not get away from the fact that our fertitlity does decrease from 35 and then rapidly from 40.  Although IVF and technology can help, as this article points out, it's important to know the consquences of delaying the decision to have a child.  Of course, for those who are open to adoption, there are not the same time limitations

http://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/health-and-fitness/health-advisor/plan-to-delay-having-a-baby-make-sure-you-understand-the-consequences-before-its-too-late/article19080910/

Sunday, 5 April 2015

Millennials get to grips with the baby decision

So, as the 'Generation Y' gets older, they too are starting to grapple with the decision whether to have children or not.  As this article points out, they have seen the previous generation, generation X'ers worry about fertility and have learnt lessons from their experience.

'For now, research suggests that while those millennials value parenthood, even more than marriage – 74 per cent of them want to have children, according to American statistics from the Pew Research Center – their fertility rate is falling behind that of Gen X. About 36 per cent of women in the 18-to-29 age group had had children in 2010, compared with 41 per cent of Gen Xers of the same age in 1998.'

http://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/relationships/its-gen-ys-turn-to-face-the-baby-clock/article17478562/






Saturday, 4 April 2015

Friday, 20 March 2015

Men who want children more than their girlfriends or wives

Men, until recently, have not shown a huge amount of interest in exploring this baby decision and therefore, I have targeting my services at women who are exploring or are ambivalent about the baby decision.

In terms of dealing with the tricky issue of wanting a baby when your partner doesn't, if I do have a client is coming to me for help because they want a baby but their partner doesn't, they are women.

However, in the past few years, I seen a slight increase in the numbers of men approaching me for coaching help when they want a child but their partner doesn't

This seems to be a growing trend - as discussed in this article Men Want Babies and Women Want Freedom. 

The author makes a very salient point at the end of the piece,

'As long as the particulars of childcare and career and flexibility are a gamble for women more than men, more and more of us are going to opt out of this dance. The upside is that maybe then we will have the collective leverage to fix the system.'